Now this is something I know I shouldn't do... Going over the past and thinking what I could've done to change things. None of us should do this. It doesn't make anything 'better'. It certainly won't change anything. It most likely will make you feel like crap.
But there are times when I've thought:
- "If only I had spoken up in my obstetric appointment when they had decided to induce my labour with Liam, and had told them I felt safer with a c-section... maybe Liam wouldn't have severe Cerebral Palsy now"
- "If only we had gotten my mum tested earlier for the cancer... maybe she would be here now"
- "If only I had been more focussed at university and finished my degree earlier...then I would've been teaching and earning money for a while so I could've saved before I got married and had children"
Everyday people spend time thinking about the past and what they should've done. It is wasted energy, unless it is used to stop any further preventable incidents. It depletes you if you let it feed on your mind and your heart. It is toxic. Be kind and gentle to yourself. Do not worry about the past, as it is done and finished.
No regrets.. Non, je ne regrette rien