Friday 10 June 2011

Judgement...

Oh do I loath judgement... although I must admit it is all part of the human experience. We all judge to some degree, even if we don't think we do. I am not religious per se, but the only being/thing that can judge is God. Yet we all have preconcieved notions of how things should be and what we should be doing and how we should be reacting and so on and so forth.
The truth is NONE of us should judge another human being until we are PERFECT and believe me nobody is perfect or ever will be. We all make mistakes, we all do things that are questionable, and so there is the hypocrisy in our judgement of others.
As I grow and develop, as I strive to be the best I can be, I try to ensure my lack of judgement on others. It is a difficult task as I think it is ingrained in us from the moment we are on this Earth. Almost like a reflex action, a knee jerk reaction. 
It is so easy to look at someone's situation and say "Oh I would do it so differently". But you are not them. You have not experienced every single experience that person has had. You do not have the exact dynamics of that persons life, their relationships, their moods, their feelings.
I think the path to being a happier person is to let go of judgement. When I am concious of my judgemental thoughts, I quash them and try to think of a positive spin on my thoughts. Give people the "benefit of the doubt". It surprisingly feels good! It's a refreshing change as opposed to continuing on that judgemental line.
Next time you catch yourself thinking "Oh I wouldn't do that" or "Would you just look at that!", take a step back and change your thoughts. It doesn't hurt. I promise *insert that usual winky face*.

1 comment:

Hear Mum Roar said...

Excellent advice:)